DEALING WITH MARITAL DESPERATION

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DEALING WITH MARITAL DESPERATION

Many singles today are in desperate need for marriage. Becoming desperate for marriage is a bad omen and if you follow its push, you are headed for a marital disaster! 

Beloved singles, change your thinking. Understand that God will not reject nor forsake you (Psalm 94:14).

 Think about yourself the way God thinks about you. Be rest assured that He knows the right thing for you at the right time.

 It is therefore expedient that we talk about ways to deal with or combat marriage desperation.

1. Most importantly have a defined purpose and get busy with it: 

Purpose gives your life vision and direction. Have you discovered and defined your purpose? If yes, pursue it with all your might. If no, don't worry about a relationship yet, work on discovering your purpose first. 

2. Understand what you really want: 

_Is your desire to get married a true picture of your heart or you want to get married because someone says you should and is mounting pressure on you?_

 The someone could even be parents.

3.  Don't get married because you love the idea of marriage.

_Marry because you are sure you can handle the responsibilities that comes with marriage._

Don't settle for any kind of person, go for the best. Remember that getting married is not a race:

You are not in competition with anybody. That your mates are married is not an indicator that you too must get married. Everyone is not the same. It is better you take your time and make the right choice than rushing in and making a mistake. Be wise! Don't be swayed by any form of pressure: 

As difficult as it maybe, try not to put pressure on yourself. In the same way, permit no pressure from anybody

4. Distance yourself from people that don't respect your decision/mindset:

 If your friends really love you they should respect your decision and encourage your mindset not to be pressured

Don't associate with people that will get you to do what you don't want to do or make you feel inferior because you aren't married.

© Josephine Aremo

Comments

Unknown said…
Wonderful ,this is more than an eye opener,it's destiny opener, am really bless with this,thanks ma for unveiling the reality on how to be successful in marriage...
1 May 2020 at 05:56
Josephine Aremo said…
Thank you sir, we appreciate your feedback
1 May 2020 at 06:28
Chynwe said…
Thank you for the insightful post.My take home points are discover your purpose and pursue it.Never give in to any form of pressure from family and friends and do not settle for less too all because I want to get married.
1 May 2020 at 10:52
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