Blissful Relationship and Marriage

“It rained heavily throughout the night even till dawn. Getting up and preparing for work was just so difficult. Having had an eventful weekend-both pleasant and unpleasant! She smiled sadly as she remembered what had happened. She rolled over to the other side of the bed as she checked her watch. Ugh! She grunted as she pushed the cover cloth over her head again.  It took the buzzing of the alarm clock to rouse her from bed. She quickly did her morning devotion as she dashed into the bathroom.  Her decision not to take her car to work today was really a good one. Traffic was heavy! And if she had brought her car, she would have had no choice than to keep up with the traffic and that would make her late for the management meeting that was scheduled to hold later in the day.  As she sat in the keke Napep, her mind went to the discussion she had with her mom while leaving the house earlier that morning.  “Bisi”s husband has sent her packing o! In fact, ...

Surprised and confused as to why she was crying, he placed his palm on her hands. “Folakemi? What happened? Why are you crying? Or have I said something wrong? He asked with concern written all over his face. She quickly wiped her tears, not wanting to embarrass herself the more. “No, I’m totally fine. Don’t mind me, I just got emotional”. She said as she sniffed her nose. “Emotional ke? About what? Is there something you are not telling me? He asked with a raised brow. She gave a brief smile. “Really I’m fine! She answered. But one look at Ademiju’s facial expressions, she knew he wasn’t ready to take that for an answer. She continued, you know, I have been trusting God to release an album from the songs inspiration I received during my “Alone time with Him” I just didn’t want to end up like those people that kept the gift God gave them or the inspiration they received from God in a book; hindering the lives it was meant for from being blessed. Since the day her spirit led her ...

“Bro Ademiju? The voice called out from the hall again; gradually sounding close to where they were. Having being distracted from what he was saying, he looked back and adjusted himself as he whispered to her ears, give me a minute please, I will be right back. He said, as he walked out in the direction where the voice was coming from. “She managed to nod her head in response to what he said, angry at the same time with the person that called him just at the point where he was almost saying those golden words. “Eeh Iwo Olorun mi sanu fun mi o (oh Lord my God please have mercy on me o) she said as she looked upwards, spreading her hands out towards the heavens; Abi what is this one ke? All these evil powers of my mother’s house are here again she said as she knit her hands together, pressing her lips tightly and rocking herself back and forth on her seat. “She remembered how her mother had been so concerned about her since she graduated from the university without her having a...

EPISODE 4 She waited a few minutes more, nothing happened. Wait, is he not supposed to be rehearsing his proposal lines already? Or should I say proposing already? She questioned in her heart, slightly frowning and obviously not liking the way things are playing out. She felt embarrassed just standing there and looking at him as though she was paused to be a zombie. She rolled her eyeball in confusion of not knowing what to do. Obviously I can’t force him to talk, the best option is to leave and save myself from more embarrassment.  She walked away from him, intentionally stamping her heels on the concrete floor maybe that will make him understand that she is leaving.  As she got into the car and turned on the ignition, he gently tapped on the side glass of the driver’s seat as he motioned with his right hand for her to wind down the glass. Her heart raced faster than usual; turning herself up again from the disappointment mood to the excitement mood.  She qui...

EPISODE 3 Folake turned back with great excitement only to see a chocolate skin colored, slim man standing before her; dressed in a blue strip shirt, neatly tucked in a pair of ash colored jean and a black pair of sneakers wearing a big smile with his hand stretched forth for a shake. She tilted her head to the back a bit and gave him a quick glance from head to toe. Nice shaped beards, arrhh the perfume…she couldn’t have mistaken the fragrance; it’s definitely midnight blue! She nodded her head slowly as she agreed within herself that he’s classy and he’s a got a good dress sense too. Nice! She has always found men who dresses well and smelled nice attractive.   But how could someone be this tall? Hello…she was jolted back from her thoughts at the sound of the guy’s voice. Are you still here? My hand aches already! Will you just accept the shake? “Oh my bad! I’m so sorry about that. She said as she stretched forth her hands to return the shake.  He must be o...

EPISODE 2 She was still carried away with the song which has always been her favorite; carrying her spirit straight to the presence of the Most High and getting her connected to hear His voice clearly. She nodded her head and closed her eyes in worship as she lifted her hands to the heavens as the meaning and the power of the song flowed through her. It’s a song by Paul Wilbur- I enter the Holy of Holies.  She couldn’t really understood why the song sounded differently today and why it carried a huge weight and meaning deep down her spirit. She quizzed within herself and smiled as the answer to the question in her heart finally dawned on her; it wasn’t the song but it was her! The sudden realization that “His will” has finally showed up and will propose to her today caused her to feel different by making her heart beat faster with wild excitement, made the song new and it was as if a box of butterflies were being released in her stomach to fly and if a horse rider were to ride...

Folake checked her watch for the umpteenth time, it’s almost 4:30 she said to herself as if she was surprised. Fear, worry and anxiety creased her brows as she grabbed her tommy tight as if it will fall off. She silently prayed in her heart as she did some vocal exercises, trying to ease the rumblings in her tommy and her nervousness at the same time. Earlier that week, during the choir rehearsal, the music director had placed the responsibility on her to lead the first choir ministration on the music festival night. She had wanted to faint or the ground to open and swallow her up but neither of it happened. She tried to excuse herself by explaining to the music director the reason for which she can’t lead the first or any of the choir ministration. It’s actually not her first time of standing before the crowd and ministering but that was just on a normal Sunday service for God’s sake not a music festival night where thousands of people will be gathered, different mu...

What is DESPERATION?? Desperation is the state of doing anything in your means to get what you want. What are the causes of marriage desperation? 1. Purposeless living: When you lack purpose you lack focus and direction. You are being driven by any and every thing. People around you can easily put you under pressure. But when you have a defined purpose for your life, you will be so busy pursuing it. Remember Adam was busy pursuing his purpose until God saw that it is not good for him not to continue alone then provided a helper for him. 2. Fear of being lonely: Some singles become desperate for relationship because the they are lonely or are afraid of being lonely. They begin to look for someone that will keep them company and feel the empty space in their hearts. Truth be told, no one can feel the emptiness you experience in your heart except God. 3. Fear of repeating the past: Maybe some of  your family member married at age you consider late, or never got married at al...

DEALING WITH MARITAL DESPERATION Many singles today are in desperate need for marriage. Becoming desperate for marriage is a bad omen and if you follow its push, you are headed for a marital disaster!  Beloved singles, change your thinking. Understand that God will not reject nor forsake you (Psalm 94:14).  Think about yourself the way God thinks about you. Be rest assured that He knows the right thing for you at the right time.  It is therefore expedient that we talk about ways to deal with or combat marriage desperation. 1. Most importantly have a defined purpose and get busy with it:  Purpose gives your life vision and direction. Have you discovered and defined your purpose? If yes, pursue it with all your might. If no, don't worry about a relationship yet, work on discovering your purpose first.  2. Understand what you really want:  _Is your desire to get married a true picture of your heart or you want to get marr...